Eating disorders are more common than you think. Those suffering with an eating disorder can feel ashamed, afraid, and embarrassed. Most do not want to be a burden to their family or friends so they hide their eating disorder. Support is a huge component on the road to recovery from this life threatening disease. Being an individual’s support is not easy, but you can do it. It is easy to feel shame or take blame for the illness, but you need to know this is not your fault nor is it the fault of the individual living with an eating disorder. You need to accept you did not cause the illness and instead be strong for the one you are supporting.
First, learn all that you can about eating disorders so you can better understand the daily thoughts and actions of the individual you are supporting. The more you know and learn about the illness will only benefit you in pointing out concerns.
Second, learn how to communicate concerns without putting blame or shame on the individual. Using “I” statements is the best way to communicate how you feel as the supporter. Learning how, when and where it is appropriate to talk about the illness can be beneficial to building a supportive relationship. You do not want to put an individual on the spot around others who may be unaware of the situation, but you also want to learn to be encouraging and supportive in public.
Do not forget about you! It can be easy to put aside what you need and put others before yourself especially when they are battling a life threatening illness. There are support groups for individuals specifically supporting loved ones with eating disorders. Take advantage of these groups so you can discuss frustrations, struggles, highs and lows you may be experiencing and to ultimately know you are not alone.
Do not be afraid to tell someone if your friend or loved one needs help. Addressing and acknowledging the body image or eating problem is one of the first steps. Talk to a professional, do not wait for the issue or symptoms to progress further before deciding to tell someone. Encourage the individual suffering to seek professional help. Individuals suffering with an eating disorder need professional help from therapists, dietitians and physicians as well as your support to help guide them on a road of recovery which can be tough.
Keep in mind seeking help for an individual with body image issues or an eating disorder can be difficult and scary for them. There can be hesitation on their part to commit to seeking professional help and following through with appointments. You need to be able to stand by them and remind them why they are seeking help, remind them of their goals and why they want to get better. A lot of the time their thoughts will be feed or clouded by the eating disorder to which they need the reminder to why they want to get well and stay focused on recovery.
If you are in public, at a social gathering or just having a simple dinner at home remember the tips provided above. You want to continue to be a sense of support but also want to be firm. You want to be firm when promoting positive encouragement and know they are responsible for their own actions. Understand treatment is not easy and setbacks and relapse are generally part of the road to recovery. If someone you care about is struggling, remind them of their goals and why they want to want to get better.
If you are looking for resources to learn more and how to support an individual suffering from an eating disorder, refer to the National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA), Academy for Eating Disorders (AED) websites, as well as local certified professionals specialized in eating disorders.
Written by: Amanda Worth, MA
Originally written for The Sanity Snack
In the midst of the winter season and the holidays fastly approaching we can find ourselves overwhelmed, anxious, stressed, excited, even depressed. Sometimes we can fall into a rut with the cold and lack of sunlight which can seem completely normal during this of year, as long as it does not severely affect your life. There are a variety of factors leading to holiday depression, anxiety and stress (Medicinenet.com). Unrealistic demands and pressures can make the holiday season very stressful financially, and there may be an excessive expectation to commit to social gatherings, events or traditions. Others may find themselves overwhelmed in the planning and demands of creating perfect holiday memories. To lower the stress and anxiety, one can delegate by creating realistic goals and sharing tasks with family and friends. Why do everything yourself, when you can join in all the fun by simply letting go of a few of the reigns.
Living to please others can be overwhelming, interfere with enjoyment and living in in the moment. As we enter the last few weeks of the year, take a step back, enjoy the present, and recall the highs and lows throughout the year. Everyone has accomplishments and setbacks throughout the year. If we recognize and acknowledge our ups and downs we can grow. Remember to be yourself and try not to let the pressures of the season get you down or stop you from enjoying this time of year.
Resource: ADAA https://adaa.org/
Written by Amanda Worth, MA
Stoppler, M. C. (2018) Holiday depression, anxiety, and stress. Medicine Net
Today our very own Dawn Kenner had the pleasure of meeting Jenni Schaefer (left) and Audrey English (right) from the Meadows. Jenni Schaefer is a bestselling author of Life Without Ed and a well known speaker on eating disorders.
Health and mental professionals have been aware of the concept female athlete triad and the risks posed to all females. Females who tend to play sports or exercise intensely are at greater risk of developing female athlete triad. Some of you may be wondering, what is female athlete triad? Female athlete triad was identified 1992 as the combination of three conditions: disordered eating, loss of bone density or osteoporosis and loss of menstrual periods. Although more commonly characterized with the three conditions, female athlete triad is now characterized on a spectrum. The spectrum allows for relation to varying combinations of three conditions. An individual no longer needs to identify with all three conditions originally identified to female athlete triad.
It is very common for an individual to be working on improving performance and to be focused on keeping a competitive edge to a point where they are harming themselves. Focus and dedication can become a distraction from messages your body may tell you. For example, your body may tell you to slow down or something is wrong. Some sports classify athletes by weight class, so weight can become a primary focus in training, putting pressure on an athlete, which presents significant health risks. When an athlete starts cutting food and increases training to lose weight to improve performance, they are doing themselves a disservice. When food is restricted, nutrients are no longer feeding the muscles causing them to weaken. This is a common misconception with athletes restricting themselves in one area, in this case with food, to try and benefit or improve athletic or exercise performance. Diagnosis and treatment of this potentially serious condition is complicated and often requires an interdisciplinary treatment team.
Signs and Symptoms to be aware of (Please consult a professional):
Tips for Female Athlete and exercise enthusiasts:
Written by Amanda Worth, MA
If one of your New Year’s resolutions includes a healthy body image, it’s important to maintain realistic expectations to ensure success. Making smaller goals helps track your progress and allows you to acknowledge your successful milestones more frequently. For example, “recover from my eating disorder” may be a large and potentially daunting resolution while “join an eating disorder support group” or “keep a food journal” are powerful and attainable steps towards the overarching goal that should be celebrated.
It’s important to keep in mind that there is not a “perfect” route to the development of a healthy and positive body image. What works for some will not work for others, so it’s important to identify what you know you’ll enjoy doing. Additionally, if it turns out one method doesn’t help much, you can create a new resolution at any time. Constantly working on smaller goals will make the “big” resolutions possible.
For more information, see Psychology Today’s article on recovery in the new year: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/when-food-is-family/201601/recovery-eating-disorder-is-possible.